Discovery Counseling Life Coach Services Orlando, Bradenton, Sarasota

Discovery Counseling Life Coach Services Orlando, Bradenton, Sarasota.

What am I doing today?  Working on adding an articles section to Discovery Counseling Website.

Can you tell what we have changed to the title page?

And the first article is listed above.

Comments would be appreciated.

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Help if you are struggling with Codependency

Are you struggling with Codependency?  Ask Yourself …

–       Are the opinions of others more important than your own?

–       Do you feel rejected when significant others spend time with friends?

–       Are you uncomfortable expressing your true feelings to others?

–       Do you frequently feel inadequate or doubt your ability?

–       Do you feel like a “bad person” when you make a mistake?

–       Do you have difficulty taking compliments or gifts?

–       Do you feel humiliation when your child or spouse makes a mistake?

–       Do you feel other peoples mistakes are your responsibility?

–       Do you think the success of people in your life need your constant efforts?

–       Do you have trouble saying “no” when asked for help?

–       Do you have trouble asking for help?

Did you answer yes to many of these questions,  then you have show a tendency to codependency.

If you live in the Sarasota, Bradenton area we are hosting a Codependent No More Workshop for Women.

We will discuss the characteristics of codependency, how codependency traits are formed, the affect of codependent thinking and behavior on your family relationships,  communications, work life, stress level, conduct, and self-confidence and how to make changes in your life.

Where     1201 N Beneva Road Sarasota FL

When         Wednesday Evenings at 7:00 PM for 10 weeks

Starting   February 9, 2011

We will be using the book “Codependent No More” by Melody Beattie.

Call Cheryl Gowin at (407) 222-7923 or 941-807-3974 for more details.

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Life Coaching … Would It Help Me?

Life Coaching … Would It Help Me?

 A frequently asked question is “Would working with a life coach help me?”  Life coaching is a future-focused practice with the aim of helping clients determine and achieve personal goals.  Here is a series of questions to ask yourself; if you can answer yes to these questions then working with a life coach may help you.

 I don’t feel I am where I want to be in life, I am struggling with seeing the path for moving in a positive direction.

You recognize that there is a need for change in your life.

I have the time or will make the time to invest in myself.

Working with a coach requires time on your part.  You will have to put in effort beyond just the weekly meetings.  Are you ready to make this investment?     

 I will make a commitment to putting in the effort required in working with a coach.

 A coach is someone who walks with you to help you, but the coach cannot do the work for you.  

Self-sabotaging behaviors may be limiting my ability to reach my goals and I am ready to change these behaviors.  

The coaching process requires that we change behaviors, are you ready to modify your behavior?

New concepts will be presented to me and I will incorporate these concepts into my daily life.  

Your life coach will suggest new ideas to you.  Are you ready to make these new concepts part of your daily activities?  Even if you don’t know if the ideas will work?

I view my life decisions as my responsible. 

The goal of a life coach is to help you determine your personal goals and build a map for achieving these goals.   A life coach can provide you with a foundation for change.  This foundation will not magically make the changes happen.  You will need to put the principles into practice.  Are you ready?

If you have answered yes to the above questions, then it may be time to seek out a life coach.  Seek out a coach who can also help you work through the decision process to determine the best form of professional support you need.  Talk with a professional who can help you decide whether coaching, therapy or counseling is the best form of professional support for you to help you develop the changes in your life you are seeking.

From your friends at Discovery Counseling, http://www.discoverycounseling.org

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Change in Attitude Toward Divorce

This article is the first in a five part series of articles that looks at divorce and the children involved in the divorce.  This article examines the change in cultural attitude toward divorce.

Child development patterns have been studied and developmental theories, while helpful in counseling, must be viewed within the within the changing circumstances of society from the period of study to today.  For example, Freud first published his theories in the early 1900’s when divorce was not viewed as a social acceptable option and the number of children dealing with blended families was relatively small.

The acceptability of divorce has changed dramatically over the last 30 years.  Alper, who was married in the early sixties, observed “I can honestly say in the home of my parents, I did not ever recall hearing the word ‘divorce’ uttered and do not remember a single instance of any member of my extended family, or friends of my family, ever having been divorced” (Alper, 2005).  Nair notes that nearly half of all babies born today will spend some time in a one-parent family (Nair & Murray, 2005).  Each year more than 1 million children experience the divorce of their parents (Cohen, 2002).  In 2003, less than 60% of children in the United States were living with both biologic parents, almost 25% were living with their mother only, approximately 4% were living with their father only, the rest were living with stepfamilies, adoptive families, or foster families (U.S. Census Bureau, 2003).

Divorce has become a common and acceptable outcome of couples, which have found themselves in an unfulfilling marriage.  The divorce rate in the United States has reached a 50% rate; this represents the fact that half of the marriages in the Unite States end in divorce (U.S. Census Bureau, 2003).   This fact adds new challenges when looking at child development in relation to models developed during an era when the two-parent household was the norm rather than the exception.

Traditionally, divorce has been considered a social taboo, and if someone desired a divorce they had to prove to the court that the marriage contained either physical or emotional abuse, adultery, or abandonment.  The Old Testament provided that to be divorced a man must provide his wife a certificate of divorce (Deuteronomy 24 1-4 NIV).  At the time of Jesus the ability and acceptability of divorce was an issue.  The Pharisees asked Jesus about the lawfulness of divorce and the reasons allowing for divorce.  Jesus’ reply indicates that is was not part of God’s plan to allow for divorce but was allowed in the Law of Moses because of man’s hardness of heart (Matthew 19: 3-11NIV).   In the 1960’s public opinion began to favor more relaxed divorce laws and in 1969 California became the first state to pass a no-fault divorce law. Between 1960 and 1980 the divorce rate grew almost 250 percent.  The reason for the increased divorce rate range from a combination of the lenient divorce laws, more women being able to support themselves by entering the workforce, and the slow change of the public divorce opinion.  (Furstenbert & Cherlin, 1991)

Society’s attitude regarding divorce has changed over the last 50 years.  This can be seen in contemporary TV programs.  Families in the 50’s were represented by shows such as Ozzie and Harriet; Leave it to Beaver and Father Knows Best.  These programs presented a view of families, which consisted of a middle class two parent, mother stays at home and the father is the sole financial provider family.  Today’s programs today range from Murphy Brown in the 90’s, a single working woman who had a child out of wedlock to Reba a divorced mother dealing with child visitation and step family member issues. 

Also the change in social attitude toward divorce can be in the changes in a survey results of a group of women.  In 1962, a group of women were asked if married couples with children should stay together even if they didn’t get along and half said they should. The views altered when the same groups of women were asked the same question in 1985.  Less than one in five of the women felt that couples should remain together for the sake of the children (Furstenbert & Cherlin, 1991).   The reason for the change may be many but is definitely supported by the increased divorce rate and the ease of obtaining a divorce.  No longer must one prove to the court that a divorce is necessary (Amato, 2001).

A new term is being used in the literature to describe today’s family unit; binuclear family as opposed to the nuclear family.   A binuclear family is any family that spans two households.  This language is replacing the term broken home (Karpf & Shatz, 2005).  Karpf and Shatz suggested using this term rather than broken family to present a “more positive view” of the divorced family.  The major difference between the nuclear family and the binuclear family is the potential complexity of extended family relationships; children dealing with step-parents, step- siblings, being shuttled between two homes, holidays being split between two family traditions.

The divorce rate stands at 50% of all marriages, effecting more than 1 million children in the United States each year.  This paper looked at the cultural changes in the attitude toward marriage.  The following articles in this series will look at the general effect of divorce, custodial arrangements and remarriage on the children involved in the divorce process and finally looks at the effect of counseling children of divorce.

References

Alper, G. (2005). Voices from the unconscious. Journal of Loss & Trauma, 10(1), 73-81.

Amato, P. (2001). Children of divorce in the 1990s. Journal of Family Psychology, 15(3), 355-370.

Cohen, G. (2002, November). Helping children and families deal with divorce and separation. Pediatrics, 110(6), 1019-1023.

Furstenbert, F., & Cherlin, A. (1991). Divided Families. Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press.

Karpf, M., & Shatz, I. (2005). The divorce is over — what about the kids? American Journal of Family Law, 19(1), 7-11.

U.S. Census Bureau. (2003). In Statistical abstract of the United States.  Retrieved from http://www.census.gov/cgi-bin/saipe:

Written by Cheryl Gowin

Counselor, Life Coach

www.Discoverycounseling.org

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SEO Efforts

“Everyone” says that the internet is the place to be. 

This blog is an attempt to get the word out about Discovery Counseling. 

Well here is another attempt to get the blog tied into Digg.

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Any thoughts on other ideas?

Cheryl Gowin

Discovery Counseling Sarasota Location

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Panic Attacks, Do Women Have Different Symptoms from Men?

Panic Attacks, Do Women Have Different Symptoms from Men?

What Are The Symptoms of a Panic Attack?

A panic attack generally comes without warning and is described as a sudden feeling of extreme terror or fear. This feeling of terror and panic may or may not be related to a current situation. The intensity of feelings and emotions are not in relation to the situation. You can have a panic attack any time of day or night. Common symptoms you might have during a panic attack are:
• “Racing” heart
• Feeling weak, faint, or dizzy
• Tingling or numbness in the hands and fingers
• Sense of terror, of impending doom or death
• Feeling sweaty or having chills
• Chest pains
• Breathing difficulties
• Feeling a loss of control

You can think you are having a heart attack or even fear dying from the attack. The attack generally lasts about 10 minutes. Panic attacks are not uncommon. It is estimated that 1 out of every 75 people have had some form of a panic attack. If you have one panic attack there is a greater chance you will have another. If you suffer from repeated panic attacks you may have a Panic Disorder condition.

Do women experience panic attacks more than men?

Studies have shown that women are more than twice as likely as men to have panic attacks. Women are also more likely to have recurring panic attacks and to develop panic disorder condition. Women generally first experience panic attack symptoms in early adulthood.

The symptoms experience by women also differs from those experienced by men.

Both men and women list the most frequent symptom as heart pounding. After this symptom there is a marked difference between women and men in the symptoms reported. Women are much more likely to experience respiration-related difficulties. That is, women report symptoms including shortness of breath, feeling faint, feeling smothered and nausea. Men on the other hand report symptoms including a sharp pain in the stomach and sweating much more frequently than do women.

Not only are women more likely to develop on-going panic attacks but women are more likely to have a more severe form of panic attacks that include agoraphiba. Agoraphobia  is commonly referred to as “fear of the market place”. This means that panic attacks include the fear of going to a public place or leaving one’s home. Women generally suffer from agoraphobic fears more when they are alone than when they are with another person.

Is the treatment different based on gender?

We don’t have a clear understanding of what causes Panic Disorder. Some studies have pointed to a genetic predisposition to panic disorder and note that this disorder has been shown to run in families. Many times, the symptoms appear during a time of major life changes such as graduating from school, starting a new job, getting married, moving or having a child.

Left untreated panic attacks can lead to more complicated disorders. These disorders include conditions such as specific irrational fears or phobias, avoidance of social activities, depression, problems at work or school, suicidal thoughts or actions, or substance abuse. People with Panic disorder are also at risk for developing heart disease.

There are established treatments for panic disorder. Studies have not shown specific treatments that unique to women. Each individual must work their counselor and Doctor to develop the correct method of therapy and possible medication that is required for successful treatment. The good news, this is a treatable condition.

References

Katon, W.J. (2006) Panic Disorder. The New England Journal of Medicine, 354, 2360-2367.

Kendler, K.S., Neale, M.C., Kessler, R.C., Heath, A.C., Eaves, L.J. (1993) Panic disorder in women: a population-based twin study. Psychological Medicine, 23, 397-406.

Sheikh, J.I., Leskin, G.A., Klein, D.F., (2002) Gender differences in panic disorder: findings from the national comorbidity Survey. American Journal of Psychiatry, 159, 55-58

Yoners, K.A., Zlotnick, C., Allsworth, A.B., Warshaw, M., Shea, T., Keller, M. (1998) Is the Course of Panic Disorder the Same in Women and Men? American Journal of Psychiatry, 155, 596–602

Author

Cheryl Gowin
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Choreplay

A new term is appearing in the world of marriage counseling …. Choreplay.

 Constance Gager in Scott Yabiku in An Article in the Journal of Family Issues published a study that looked at time spent on household chores. They found that that wives and husbands who spend more hours together on housework reported more time in the bedroom.

Thoughts?

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